You’re Worthy As You Are
A baby does not question its worth. It does not try to earn love. It does not strive to be enough. It simply is — pure, whole, and entirely deserving of care and affection. From the moment it enters the world, love surrounds it. People marvel at its presence, smile at its every movement, and celebrate its existence without expectation. There is no pressure to be different, to prove something, or to perform a role. But somewhere along the way, that knowing gets buried.
As we grow, we absorb the beliefs of those around us — our parents, our caregivers, our peers. Without even realizing it, we take on their fears, their doubts, their wounds. If they believed love had to be earned, we learned to work for it. If they withheld affection until we met their expectations, we internalized the idea that being ourselves wasn’t enough. If we were only praised for achievements, we started equating our worth with success.
This is how conditioning takes hold. It’s rarely something explicit. It seeps into us through repetition, through small moments of rejection, through praise that only comes when we are “good enough” by someone else’s standards. We become so entangled in these inherited beliefs that we forget they were never truly ours.
And so we grow into adults who strive endlessly — believing that if we just do more, give more, accomplish more, then we will finally be worthy of love. We chase validation through productivity, relationships, accolades, and approval, never realizing that we are already enough just as we are.
But healing invites us to question these illusions. It asks us to peel back the layers and see where these beliefs originated. It allows us to recognize that many of the fears we hold were never ours to begin with. And most importantly, it gives us the power to choose differently.
When we begin to restructure our belief systems, everything changes. We stop seeking love in places that require us to shrink. We stop exhausting ourselves in the pursuit of “enoughness.” We begin to live from a place of authenticity rather than approval.
And in that space of deep, unshakable self-worth, we return to what we always knew as children — our existence alone is enough. Love is not something we earn. It is something we are.
